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Nigel Buxton Update
Up the creek without a paddle! |
July 2006 |
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Dear Nigel,
Summer time used to be a low season for me. No
more!
You may have noticed that I missed last week, I
apologize for that.
I am looking forward to a seaside holiday soon, and I
guess a lot of you will also be taking a break. So this
will be the last of these Updates for a while. The
next
one is scheduled for the last week in August.
I like to use the summer break for reflection and
contemplation. It is a good time to:
- See where you are;
- See if you are happy doing what you are doing;
- See if you want to change the direction of your
life;
- See if there is something more that you want to do
or accomplish.
So here is something to stimulate you to think about
what you want to do.
Enjoy!
A famous study of Yale University graduates found
that, back in 1953, just 3% of the graduating class
had written down a set of goals for their lives. 20
years later a survey of the same group revealed that
the "goal setting" students were financially worth
more than the other 97% put together. This 3% also
had better relationships and enjoyed better health. It
was not parental wealth, degree subjects taken,
career selected, ethnic or gender base or any other
obvious factors that made the difference. The factor
that linked all these students was that they had set
clear goals.
"To begin with the end in mind means to start with a
clear understanding of your destination. It means to
know where you are going, so that you better
understand where you are now and so that the steps
you take are always in the right direction." – Stephen
Covey – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
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Who has got the paddle?
Without goals, you are drifting and when you drift,
you are not in control.
If you are not in control, then
someone else is.
You have relinquished your basic
right to shape your own future.
In doing this, you
also surrender your freedom of action which restricts
your choices and can lead to frustration, anxiety,
fear and stress.
One of the principal reasons why people stop setting
goals is that they set goals that they do not
achieve,
and then they give up.
Edison made 10,000 trials
(failures) before he finally invented a light bulb.
"The nature of he human is that he/she learns by
making mistakes".
The
fear of being judged a failure is one of the most
common "brakes" people have which stop them from
persisting towards their goal.
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Another difficulty with goals can be just getting
started.
"A walk around the world starts with the first
step".
The goal can be absolutely right for you and
really challenging, but it is so big that you do not
know where to start.
You get overwelmed by the
goal.
Just break it down into managable bite-
size chunks.
Do you have projects that it is time to start
planning?
Have you got a firm grip on your paddle?
Nigel coaches people like you to freedom – freedom
from limitations, freedom to do/be more, financial
freedom, emotional freedom, freedom to be
yourself.
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Kind regards,
nigel
phone:
+386-1-420-1524: +386-41-674-924
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